|
|
150 Ways to Show Kids You Care…
Be flexible.
Copyright© 1998 by Search Institute
|
|
Talking To Yourself
Oh, come on. Everybody talks to themselves! Most of the time we don’t even
know it. The way we talk to ourselves affects the way we feel about ourselves.
Let’s take Marty and Beth. Neither of them studied for the math test, and
they both failed it. If we could go inside Marty’s head, we might hear something
like this:
"Oh no! I can’t believe I failed! I’ll
never pass another math test again as long as I live! I’m so
stupid!"
Pick some feeling words that describe how Marty feels right now:
Let’s go inside Beth’s head:
"Oh no! I failed the math test! I guess that’s what happens when
I don’t study! I’m really disappointed in myself. I’ll study
for the next test for sure. I know I can pass the next one."
Pick some feeling words that describe how Beth feels right now:
Both Marty and Beth failed the test. They think about it differently.
Problems can come from how we think about them. We need to think about how
to solve the problem instead of telling ourselves the problem can’t be
solved.
Change these thoughts and make the feelings more positive. The first two are
examples:
| Situation |
Thought |
Feelings |
New Thought |
New Feelings |
| Teacher gets mad at you. |
I’m so stupid. I never do anything right. |
Sad, angry, depressed. |
That wasn’t the brightest thing I’ve
ever done, but I can do it differently next time. I can learn from my mistakes. |
Hopeful, good about self. |
| Situation |
Thought |
Feelings |
New Thought |
New Feelings |
You see a new kid. You’d like to get to know them. |
I can’t talk to that new person!
What if they don’t like me?
|
Fear, anxiety |
I’ll talk
to them and see how it goes. |
Curious, hopeful. |
| Someone you don’t know glances at you in the hallway. |
That person hates me. I can tell just by the way they look
at me. |
|
|
|
| You trip and fall in front of someone you really like. |
This is the most totally embarrassing thing that’s ever
happened to me. I’ll never live it down in a million years. |
|
|
|
You mess up and get grounded during spring break. |
This is so unfair! I can’t believe my parents would do
this to me! I hate them! |
|
|
|
Here is a list of feeling words to help you.
- Happy feelings are – playful, loved, proud, calm, relaxed
- Angry feelings are – disgusted, impatient, hurt, frustrated, furious,
jealous
- Sad feelings are – helpless, anxious, bored, disappointed, alone
- Fearful feelings are – worried, shocked, paranoid, shy, crazy
© 2001-2007 AADAC - Alberta Alcohol and Drug Abuse Commission
Copyright and Disclaimer Statement |
Privacy Statement
|
|
print it!
